Only in the dark nights you can see stars, and those stars will lead you back home.So, do not be afraid to make mistakes.

You can stumble and you can fall but always remember the greatest reward come from doing  things that scares you most.Maybe you will get everything you wished for,who knows? Maybe you will even get more than you could imagine who knows where life will take you? The road might be long and in the end this journey might just be your destination.

I mean your current love life might just be where you will spend the rest of your life (commitment/marriage).

You know what I like about you, you admit you come short in many ways in your relationship but you are just too proud,arrogant or self righteous to make amends. All I know is if you keep up with this trend, you will hurt you more than everyone else involve.

The first I notice about you is selfishness;which is unfair to him.Everything about that relationship should not be about you alone but both of you. You get angry whenever you are not around and he is unable to put a call through to you to ask about your well being without hearing him out, even when he is the one not around you expect him to give you details of what is happening without giving a rat ass about what he is going through. Does that sound FAIR to you?

You expect him to be friendly and kind to your friends and family whilst you always complain about what his is doing that you can not stand. It is not that easy for him show that kindness to yours but he is doing it for you. He loves you so much that that he feels when he is doing what you want, it will only make you happy and seeing you happy is all he want because he cant trade it for the world. So being hostile to his own friends and family that makes him sad seems FAIR to him I think?

He leaves you to his friend, you can talk, gist, take a walk, pay them visit if you want to even dance with them in party without even looking at you, that is called TRUST. He trust you, but whenever he joke or try to be friendly with your friends you raise eyebrow and act funny like he has a hideous motive , thereby making him look fool for wanting to be part of the world you value so much FRIENDSHIP. Even when he help them with something and you got to know from them first you still complain he should have inform you. He tells you how much he trust you but all you do is to doubt him in return. If I may ask is it FAIR?

Whenever you fee you are wronged by him, you make him explain all that happen and reasons behind his actions but when you do worse thing you feel you do not owe him an explanation, you put that charming smile on beautiful face of you and feel everything is normal between you without explanation about what prompted your action. That’s FAIR right?

There is a Yoruba proverb which says “ki bo lowo eni kobo sonu, owo elomi ni yo bosi” when you lose it, it is not lost but found by another person. If you let him go he will definitely find another person that will VALUE, TRUST and ultimately LOVE him more than you do.

Èyàn kì í mọ iyì ohun tó ní, àfi tó bá sọọ́ nù. A man seldom appreciate what he has, unless he loses it. The best way to learn in life is reflection straightening and bending thing to suit you and believe that everything about your life is your own movie , so you call the shot. Another way is by imitation, taking a que from how other people live their life in a fulfil manner its just a kind of limitation to some happiness in some part of your life it is the easiest way though, because you just have to live your life like you are reading a script mind you, your life is not a movie and the personality you are imitating have different attitude and character to you. The third is the bitterest it is learning the hard way I mean learning from ADVERSITY learning from the mistake you make, you just cant get the time back so avoid doing what you might wish you could take back.

You must love him in return, I think he deserve that much. You excuse is readable, what if I give him my heart and break it?

Let him feel loved he will melt away and prioritize being with you more than anything else in the world as ANGELU MAYA once wrote “love is like a virus, it can happen to anybody at anytime” you will be amazed how loving he is, if you can show him that reassuring love.

Admit it you are weak when it comes to you going for what you want thinking everytime what if he is just in the relationship for the fun of it but the fact is for you to be anywhere near happiness in your relationship, you must TRUST him he deserves that much  you just must face reality and stop wishing and put up a willing attitude to get what you want from that relationship. “great souls have wills; feeble ones have only wishes” stop being part of the feeble ones and show the world how great you are. JOHN WOODEN once wrote: “Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turned out” Never stand begging for that which you have power to earn, you can not live your ln pretence for him to love you that is BEGGING, you have the power to earn that love just show him how great you are in term of what you do and you will be  surprised how much he will be WILLING to have you. Never give up on something you really want. It’s difficult to wait, but worse to regret.

Perfection is not attainable, but if you chase it you will catch up with excellence says Vince Lombardy. Try to influence life of that man of yours not into what you want only but figure of a perfect man and you will be surprised even if he does not become a dream man of every woman in the world by not being perfect, he will be a perfect fit in your life. That’s refining to taste.

You want a great man when you are nowhere near greatness? You don’t deserve a great man when you are not great. Work hard, invest in yourself and become great then your chance having your dream man is enhanced but still not certain.

Something common among everyone in relationship is we are in it for  reason  but the question is, does it worth it? It may be because he is handsome, intelligent, successful, smart, funny, goodlooking, make you feel good, is whatever it is enough for you to live a happy life with him? There is this case I like when a lady told me she is not sure of being in relationship with this guy, when I asked her why her response was “I love him so much, I just don’t know what I love in him or why I fell in love with him”. I told her true love isn’t about definition but emotion. she will forever be in love with that guy whether he fulfil his dream or not and if you think man’s accomplishment is what makes a good man rich, influential or powerful all are TRANSIENT and with time you will know it doesn’t make a great man or fine husband.

Opemipo Adebanjo once wrote: “I have always earn people’s love, I have never hope to get it on a platter of Gold”  it takes me to irregular pattern of life. Sometimes life pushes pretty hard when you fall in with someone but forget to love you back but there is no way a man will love you when you have no value to add to his life. She also wrote: “Love and Marriage are transactions, what value are you bringing into the person’s life?”.

What have you got to make you think a right thinking man will want you for the rest of his life? Is it all weekend clubbing? Your drinking habit? Your uncreative mind? Your head with no good idea? Your nagging attitude? That your beautiful face and elegance is not enough for a sane man to settle for, why don’t you reinvent you to find a way to add value to you, inculcate the habit of reading to learn from the best minds, improve on your human relation be modest let your action speak for you, learn how to overlook mistakes some call the latter weakness but it is a strength every man want in person they would love to spend the rest of his life with.

Moreso, statistics shows that 80% of intelligent women gives birth to bright kids. So for every responsible man that want the best for his future will always dream of bright kids and will look beyond beauty and smartness but will go a step further adding intelligence to the collection.

A Yoruba proverb says: “ohun tia koba jiya fun kin tojo, ohun ti a ba fara sise fun lo n pe lowo eni” what we don’t strive to get doesn’t last because we don’t value it, but whatever that is hard earned we cherishly hold on to it. Nothing good come free, invest in your relationship, build yourself, raise your standard to get your dream man; remember nothing is free. Do I hear you say SALVATION is free? No its not JESUS paid the price.

Do you think no man is good enough for you right now? And you are not willing to put in effort to make it work? You want a Tall, Handsome, Loving, Caring, Loyal, Intelligent, Influential, Good looking and God fearing  man don’t worry you will get it SOON because JESUS is coming SOON